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Photographed with Nikon D200, 35mm lens.
When I was single and dating, I found that my senses would often go through a phase of being incredibly dull, eventually followed by a period of overly keen sharpness. I'd meet a guy, and he would be wonderful, beyond my wildest imagination. I would be completely in awe that such an amazing person actually walked the face of the earth. I would be dumbstruck that a god like him would deign to be in the company of a schmuck like me.
And then my vision would start to correct itself. And all of a sudden, the "god's" blemishes would come into sharp focus. And I found myself thinking things like, "Oh. My. Did he always chew with his mouth open?" and then, "My heavens, this guy has some freakishly weird-looking feet," eventually becoming, "Dear God, if I have to spend another day with a man who .... BREATHES ... like this, I WILL TAKE MY OWN LIFE."
Yeah. It wasn't pretty.
I've mentioned before that Marcus asked me to marry him 18 days after our first date. After I initially said yes, I rushed to correct myself: "Wait! No! This is crazy! Ask me again in a couple of months." The truth was, I wanted to make sure that my eyes focused properly first. Because they were seriously out of focus, back in those days.
In a few months, it will be eight years since that first date. And lately, as I struggle to work toward my own personal and professional goals, Marcus remains ever supportive, consoling me when things don't go as planned, and cheering me on when they do. And suddenly today, it dawned on me: after all this time, my eyes have never seemed to regain their focus.
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Happy Love Thursday, everyone. Please leave your stories or links to your images and words in the comments section below.
And when it comes to the people you love (and who seriously love you back), may your eyes never come into focus.
Song: Babylon by David Gray
Thursday, May 28, 2009 at 12:00AM
Reader Comments (37)
I met my sweetie, Jason, in Novemember of 2007. Within a month, we were in love and within two months, we were talking about moving in together. It all happened so fast, but in exactly the right way for us. While life became an unfocused whirlwind, it was also filled with more clarity and stability than I had ever experienced. We had finally found exactly where we were meant to be.
We are now engaged and planning a blow-out, celebratory wedding for this September. Just the other day, we picked up Jason's wedding band. When he tried it on for the first time, I heard an audible, "Ahhhhh, " come out of his mouth. What a wonderful sound...like coming home.
This photo was taken right after we picked up the ring. We were sitting in a little French bakery, waiting for our lunch to arrive. Jason sat admiring his ring, analyzing it from every angle, and smiling from ear to ear. He was at once a hundred feet off the ground and firmly planted in the joy of the moment.
Ahhhh...
A wonderful love story! Or story about love. Happy Love Thursday!
Beautifully spoken. Love the popping color in this delightfully out of focus image.
One of my sons is a love story which defies all odds. He has something special happening this weekend, and I wanted to share.
Love Thursday ~ Special
Guess I picked up on your theme here before I knew. See my lackafocus here. Happy Love Thursday.
You are so much like me - and the story of you and Marcus gives me hope and inspiration. Beautiful, friend!
A beautiful story indeed. Thank you for sharing.
Appealing image here - don't normally like out of focus shots but this one has appeal through great colours and textures.
This is such a wonderful post. A beautiful tribute :)
Here is my Love Thursday offering for this week!
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Great post - we worked on out of focus shots at school this week, deliberately blurring is a lot of fun.
My Love Thursday post today is about our Mom. http://www.soeursdujour.com
Karen sweet story of life in and out of focus ~the photo is incredible!
my post shows the "journey" of a birthday:
http://www.redorgray.com/2009/05/hers-by-redorgray-on-flickr.html