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Friday
30Oct2009

« on joy, happiness and pleasure »

One from the archives: Alex at Discovery Green, July 2009.  Photographed with Nikon D300, 70-200mm lens.

This past Wednesday, I attended the Champions of Literacy Series dinner, hosted by Literacy Advance of Houston, and honouring author Dwight Edwards.  Dwight's new book, A Tale of Three Ships, is published by the same publisher as my upcoming book, and so I was invited to attend.  It was a lovely evening, for a great cause:  Literacy Advance of Houston is an organization that helps functionally illiterate adults learn how to read English. But the best part was Dwight's keynote -- his speech was filled with lovely tidbits that I wholeheartedly believe, and so, if you'll permit me, I thought I'd share them with you here.

He opened his speech by telling an anecdote about Alex Haley, the author of the bestseller Roots.  Apparently, Haley used to have this photograph of a turtle sitting on top of a fence post prominently displayed in his office.  Occasionally, people would ask what was up with the photograph, and Haley would reply, "Well, think about it:  every time you see a turtle on the top of a fence post, you know he had help getting there."  Dwight then thanked the crowd for his award, saying that he never felt more like that turtle.

He began speaking about Joy, which is the primary subject of his book.  He said that Joy shouldn't be confused with Happiness and Pleasure -- in fact, he said, Joy's closest competitors are Happiness and Pleasure.  He went on to explain:

Happiness is a favourable condition caused by an outside circumstance.   You feel Happy when something good happens to you.

Pleasure, he said, is really more of a fulfillment of a corporal desire.  You derive Pleasure from things like a good glass of wine, for example.  Or a delicious rich chocolate.

But Joy, he said, Joy was something entirely different.  He described it as something that can only be understood by experience.  Joy, he believes, is deeper, stronger and cleaner than either Happiness or Pleasure.  He believes true Joy is something which finds us; we don't find Joy.

Nonetheless, he said, there were two ways to make it easier for Joy to find us:

1.  To be joyful, we need to do what we were meant to do.  He describes this as fulfilling the "extraordinary dream."  He believes we were each hardwired to do something in a way that no one else can do it, and that "when we find it, it will absolutely light us up."  He stressed that this didn't necessarily mean that we should all make a living doing this; however, we should definitely carve time to do it as often as possible. 

And the second way:

2.  In referencing Alex Haley's photograph, he believes that there is a unique joy in helping fellow human beings move up the fence post. We are joyful when we can help others succeed.

And finally, one of my favourite parts of his speech:  "Whoever said 'money can't buy happiness' was broke.  Of course it can buy Happiness.  What it can't buy, is Joy."

I hope you have a Joy-full weekend, everyone.


SongSong of the heart by Prince (from the Happy Feet soundtrack)

Reader Comments (19)

Yes! Joy is deeper and richer and much more stable than happiness or pleasure. I absolutely agree that there is great joy in helping others up the fence post and that finding what it is that makes us come uniquely alive is one very powerful way to make more space in our hearts for joy. Thank you Karen - also I was very excited to discover the link where I could sign up to the newsletter updates for your book! Eeeeek. So exciting.

October 30, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterMarianne

Fabulous! I truly believe that we can be joyful even when we are not happy. Thanks for posting this.

October 30, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterSara

This post just thrills me to pieces. Truly it does. I can say I am a happy person who fines so much joy in simply living. I will have to check out this book.

October 30, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterLu

Today, I start pouring out solutions and chemicals that I don't use in the lab any more. I have exactly one month left in my current lab before moving to my new one. I am thankful that I have a job. I am. But I'm a bit brokenhearted over leaving a boss I love working for, doing lab work that I love doing. I'm worried that I'll never find that passion, that love for what I do, in another lab. I'm hoping that #1 comes with this new job, but in the mean time, I can do my best to work on #2.

October 30, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterCindy

This is an outstanding post. It is very inspirational to me. In fact, I read it, and then I re-read it.

October 30, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterMisty Dawn

Thank you so much for sharing this with all of us. Beautiful and so true. Gracias!

October 30, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterSil

This is fascinating - definitely food for thought. Hope you have a joyful weekend too!

I was directed over here by Glad's post (Airy Nothings) and I 'm glad I was. I love this post, this book and how this man views life. A big resouning YES!!!

October 30, 2009 | Unregistered Commentersherry

I love it! Very inspirational.

October 30, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterSiti

THAT IS IT!!!! You have solved...or shown me...the answer to my conundrum the past few years! No one has explained happiness, pleasure and joy that way to me. I have bought happiness...but what I am looking for is JOY. And it will find me...
I ramble
Thank you! Thank you! and thank Mr. Edwards too.

October 30, 2009 | Unregistered CommenterLD in PDX

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